are words Montserrat Moreno, who in this interview helps us extend our gaze beyond our culture's beliefs about the relationship. What I believe is nothing set in stone that a prison in which we have locked up without realizing it, to go out and look just perceiving the key to the door sleep in our pocket. A fresh and new adventures await us out ...
"Cooperation is what has made life possible"
"I have 72 years. I was born and live in Barcelona. I am a professor emeritus at the Faculty of Psychology and a degree in Education. Maiden and many other commitments. The policy has to be cooperation, working for most people. I do not need the hypothesis of God. "
Interview by Ima Sanchis for" Against "" La Vanguardia "(06/01/2011)
To reach the roots of love have to go back to the origins of life.
Do prokaryotic bacteria is love?
According to studies by Lynn Margulis cooperated, were transferred genes, allowing them to survive in a hostile environment. This cooperation Primal born over many centuries of evolution as we understand today by love. Cooperation is a vital necessity.
is not what Darwin posited ...
Margulis adds a nuance of Darwinism, another view: the strongest is the one who cooperates.
What you add?
Each of us builds the mental universe he inhabits. Reality is not what happens outside is what happens inside us. For each one only real what they believe, and can only be what he is capable of imagining.
"The only truth we recognize is that we believe in?
Yes, and it looks very clear to conflict, they are two different ways of interpreting the same reality. If one does not come out of his universe to approach the other, it is very difficult to have a common universe, and therefore come into harmony.
try I try all, or almost ...
From children should learn to resolve conflicts and learn to solve mathematical problems.
What should I ask?
have to look at your own point of view, relativize, and learn to take the place of another.
Love is broad.
Each imagine how it must be a relationship, and mentally organize models that seem the most consistent and natural or "normal."
society dictates what is "normal."
Yes, and there are cultures today who are unaware of paternity. The inhabitants of the Trobriand Islands, an archipelago south of Papua New Guinea, do not associate sex with reproduction. According to their beliefs, children born when the spirit of an ancestor is inserted into a woman.
Men and women get married?
Yes, but the husband is not considered father, that notion does not exist. The authority is exercised over the children's mother's brother.
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Is promiscuity?
The Trobriand Islanders have a habit of going to visit friends on other islands. When returning home after a year's absence, his wife may have had a new child, which is a joy for him.
What nice.
mosou China society for marriage does not exist. When the child reaches the age of majority is entitled to its own space within the mother's house where you can get and how many men want to have sex freely.
What if one falls in love with?
be his favorite, but he will never stay to live in her house or she will leave to live with him. And if you have a child will become part of the family of the mother.
Who chooses the matriarch?
The group, choose the most intelligent, and is distributed daily work of all. Mosuo men do not even want to talk about our model of marriage, the couple say that when it does not work and breaks, the men are left without family, but they do not.
seems a good system.
The Masai of Tanzania are polygamous, but with certain peculiarities. Marry older men, when they have served as a warrior with the community, from age 30. Meanwhile, they have the right to go to sleep with a married women, and it is the woman he chooses.
... " The young warrior that you want?
Yes, and if they have offspring, the husband keeps the children, who are considered an asset. And the woman who comes to marriage with a child is more valued because it is clear that is not sterile and bring a child into the clan.
you accept foreign?
There are many ways to love, and the more we know, the freer we feel. Until early last century in China was a type of marriage that was to marry a dead man.
Why?, Why?
There were women who worked, were supported and wanted to be free, but society does not allow single. Their families were forced to marry because they wanted relations with another family, then married her dead son of the other family.
That it does not protested or demanded.
This form of marriage was called to marry a gravestone, and was very successful, unmarried deceased were buscadísimos. You see, in today's world and in history, there are many forms of relationships.
What do you propose to our culture?
To establish good relations must overcome our selfishness. Let me cite Confucius.
Forward.
"Why people insist on looking for other outlets when the door is open?".
¿...?
should not assume that the other is what I think it is, but find out, talk to the person before you. Rarely present our idea against the other in an open, we just react. There to work with yourself.
Primal Love
In his study of love, cooperation and conflict, how to build universes (Ed. Gedisa), Montserrat Moreno and Genoveva Sastre studies are based on Lynn Margulis on the first bacteria that inhabited the Earth, and shows that cooperation and not competition was responsible for evolution. Their own studies show that young people are linked to a romantic idea of \u200b\u200blove, and insist on the need for colleges and universities expand apprenticeship programs in conflict resolution and knowledge of our own feelings: ... Or we will always suffer from emotional conflicts themselves and others?
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